The practical questions, answered plainly.
How does the story-gathering actually work?
I interview the two of you, and then the people you choose, with your blessing: a parent, a sibling, the friends who know you best. A mix of calls and questionnaires, whatever’s easiest for everyone. I’m listening for specific, true details, and I write the ceremony from there.
How far in advance should we book?
The sooner the better, since the process takes real time and I only take a limited number of weddings. That said, reach out whenever. If the date works, we’ll make it work.
Do you travel? What areas do you cover?
I’m based in the East Bay and serve the whole Bay Area. Travel within a set radius is included; beyond that there’s a modest per-mile fee. Tell me your venue and I’ll let you know.
Can you include religious, cultural, or interfaith elements?
Yes. My ceremonies are secular-leaning, but they’re built around you. So if traditions, readings, or rituals matter to your families, we’ll weave them in thoughtfully.
What if you’re sick on the day?
Here’s the honest answer: I’m a solo officiant, so I can’t promise a stand-in I don’t actually have. What I can promise is that your ceremony is fully written and in your hands well ahead of time. So in a rare emergency, it can still be read and the day can go on. I keep contingency plans for getting there and getting it done.
Writing + Coaching: does our friend need to be ordained? What does the law require?
For Writing + Coaching, I’m not your legal officiant. The person you choose is. In California they’ll need to be authorized to solemnize a marriage (getting ordained or registered is quick), and they sign and file your marriage license. I’ll point you to the exact steps.
Are you LGBTQ+ affirming?
Wholeheartedly, and gladly. Every couple is welcome here, and your ceremony will be built around your story exactly as it is.
Do you offer premarital counseling?
No. That’s outside what I do, and I’d rather be honest about it than overpromise. I’m focused on the ceremony itself: the listening, the writing, and the day.